Do we need marriage counseling
QUIZ

Here’ is a simple, clear, quick-to-do, 15‑question "Do We Need Marriage Counseling quiz" you and your partner can do.

Each question has four options (A, B, C or D), and you can keep track of your answers while you go. After the quiz, just add up your total score and see which result fits best. Please see the instructions below.

Quiz instructions

Here are the instructions for the "Do We Need Marriage Counselling quiz":

Read each question and choose either A, B, C, or D. You can only choose one.

Assign a score based on the letter for each question:

A = 1 point

B = 2 points

C = 3 points

D = 4 points

After finishing, add up all 15 scores. Your total score will be between 15 and 60.

Start the "do we need marriage counseling quiz" here!

1. How often do you and your partner argue about the same issue?

A) Almost never

B) Sometimes

C) Often

D) All the time

2. When you disagree, how does the conversation usually end?

A) We calm down and feel closer

B) We calm down but don’t really solve it

C) We stay upset but don’t talk about it

D) Things get much worse or we avoid talking at all

3. How emotionally close do you feel to your partner?

A) Very close and connected

B) Somewhat close

C) Not very close

D) Distant or disconnected

4. How often do you feel respected by your partner?

A) Almost always

B) Most of the time

C) Sometimes

D) Rarely or never

5. How satisfied are you with your sex/intimacy life?

A) Very satisfied

B) Usually okay

C) Somewhat unsatisfied

D) Very unsatisfied or no intimacy

6. How comfortable do you feel talking to your partner about your feelings?

A) Very comfortable

B) Usually okay

C) Uncomfortable most of the time

D) I avoid it completely

7. Have there been any major changes or stressors in your relationship lately?

A) No major changes

B) One or two stressors

C) Several stressors

D) Many big changes or crises

8. Do you feel your partner truly understands what you’re going through?

A) Yes, all the time

B) Sometimes

C) Hardly ever

D) I don’t feel understood at all

9. How often do you feel hurt or angry and keep it inside?

A) Almost never

B) A few times a month

C) A few times a week

D) Day after day

10. How invested are both of you in improving the relationship?

A) We both really want to work on it

B) I do, but I’m not sure about my partner

C) My partner does, I’m not sure about me

D) Neither of us seems very interested

11. Have you ever thought about separating or ending the relationship?

A) Never

B) Once or twice

C) Often

D) Plenty of times and I’m seriously considering it

12. How often do you feel lonely, even when you’re together?

A) Almost never

B) Occasionally

C) Most of the time

D) Always

13. How well do you handle disagreements without yelling or shutting down?

A) Very well

B) Fairly well

C) Not very well

D) We struggle a lot

14. How often do you feel hopeful about your relationship’s future?

A) Almost always

B) Sometimes

C) Rarely

D) I’ve lost hope

15. How comfortable would you feel trying marriage counselling together?

A) Very comfortable and open to it

B) A bit nervous but willing

C) Hesitant or unsure

D) We don’t want to try it at all

DISCLAIMER: This "do we need marriage counseling quiz" should help you decide the answer to the question. Do not use it as a definitive guide but as an indication only.

Scoring and Results

Add up your 15 answers (minimum score will be 15 and maximum 60). You now have a total score that falls somewhere in the following ranges:

If your score is in the 15–29 range: “You’re doing okay but could grow.”

Your relationship has some rough spots, but you’re mostly on the same page.

You don’t urgently need marriage counselling right now, but it might still be helpful if you want to strengthen communication, avoid future problems, or prepare for life's big changes and events (like kids or finances).

All marriages can benefit from the right marriage counseling. Even if you rate your relationship a 7 or 8 out of 10, we guarantee that you can get to a 9, 10 or even an 11 with the right type of counseling.

VERY IMPORTANT: We always encourage couples that are at this stage of their relationship to invest in at least a few sessions or a couples workshop.

Why you may ask, when things are OK or even going well ...

Well, that is exactly the point!

It is so much easier to now work on those issues (while you are in a relatively good space) rather than taking the risk of these issues getting out of hand.

Even if you don't have ANY issues, NOW is the best time to learn new tools, improve on what you have and and co-create the best relational space for your relationship to flourish. 

If your score is in the 30–44 range: “Professional support could really help.”

You might be experiencing real tension, miscommunication, lack of communication or emotional distance.

These are strong signs that "do we need marriage counseling" is a question worth taking seriously.

Couples therapy can give you tools to reconnect, resolve conflicts, and rebuild trust.

At this point your relationship might be far from heading for the rocks but marriage counseling can help you get rid of all those red flags before they become permanent signposts to an inevitable end.

At this point, our recommendation would be to explore marriage counseling options as soon as possible. Do not wait because you think you have more time!

We have seen so many couples delay for too long and then seek for help when things go worse. The sooner you start, the better chance you give your mariage to NOT ONLY survive but actually flourish!

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If your score is in the 45–60 range: “Counseling is very likely needed.”

You’re most probably carrying a lot of hurt, frustration, and emotional distance. Marriage or couples counselling is highly recommended.

You need help and guidance to clarify whether you’re both still committed, work through deep issues, and decide the healthiest path forward. Then you you need to learn the tools to start walking that path.

If your score falls in this range, I don't think you need any convincing. In fact you probably already knew you were answering a resounding "Yes" to the question, "do we need marriage conseling?" even before you did this quiz.

VERY IMPORTANT: At this point you might think you are past the point of no return. I can assure you that is how we felt before seeking help and we see that with many couples we are helping now.

Know that marriage counseling can most definitely help you! The first step is reaching out and seeking help.